I have known fiancé for more than half my life. (We forgot our anniversary a week back! That's how old we are) It’s truly a long story how things ended up the way they are. Now that we’re engaged and all, I thought I’d at least talk about how we met.
Yup, toyed around with a wedding website a while back but never got around to showing you (another one of my abandoned project.. haha) I made him write his version of how we met too. Click here if you are interested to know our first impression on each other..
*yawn* Pretty boring, isn’t it?
But I like the fact that he’s my friend to start off with. Someone who has grown to know me better than I know myself. As we both grow into adulthood with each other, I realize that we are no longer the young carefree couple we once were. We stress over our mortgage, living expenses, increasing pressure at work and a whole lot of other things that didn’t exist when we were sixteen. I don’t think with us getting married, I’ll be having the excitement of getting to know him on a deeper level and suddenly have that rush of love and passion newlyweds are supposed to feel.
And I didn’t mean that in a negative way. I feel like it is reassuring knowing exactly what I’m getting into before saying “I do”. I don’t anticipate accusing “I wish I had known this about you before we got married”.
Predictability may be boring, but it’s also incredibly comforting. And I don’t think I’d have it any other way.
I have a confession to make.
I am a terrible friend. In the sense that I seldom initiate friends’ gathering or take the initiative to constantly keep in touch. I blame it on busy work schedule but really, that’s not an excuse. I’m just plain lazy.
So how many school friends do I still hang out with? (not including those off chance I bumped into someone, smiled at her and put that aside as what a coincidence) Well, I can count with my fingers, from one hand.
3 weeks ago, I attended (attended sounds very distance, I would like to think I participated in) a girlfriend’s wedding. Someone I have known longer than half of my life. Yes, we go way back and yes, she got married! I’m overjoyed for her.
Congratulations to you HL! (don’t bully WK so much ya!)
Photo credit to dear fiancé, the unofficial official photographer of the day
Her announcement came at the same time when I got engaged too (although mine is a longer engagement.. thank goodness!) and I was trilled for her and at the prospect of going through the wedding planning process together. But alas, work got on the way and before I knew it, her wedding day came and passed. I never doubt that she was capable of handling the whole wedding on her own, but I just wish I could have helped her more along the way and be there for her.
Pre-wedding - Her gown fitting early this year, of which I was there..
Wedding day – Helping her change
But then again, maybe she doesn’t trust my advices. Since young, we both have extreme opposite opinions when it comes to making fashion statements. But we sort of learned each other’s preference. When we go shopping together for example, when I see an overly complicated girly-frilly dress, I will pick it up and make her try. While she’ll point out to me simple dresses that she discards for they’re more likely my style!
Reminiscences of our teenhood brought back lots of memories and most of the times include another close friend. CY has gone missing from our lives since we last saw her during her son’s full moon party, and Oliver is now 4 years old (she’s been living in Singapore with her hubby and son).
Unexpectedly received a call from CY the day after HL’s wedding to meet-up since she was in town. It was a pleasant surprise indeed. Tired as she was, darling HL dragged her 1-day old hubby then, to meet CY.
Oliver is truly a handful to handle. He is hyper and playful but oh so charming :)
Was on a phone conversation with CY last night as they are planning a trip to KL next weekend and would like to make plans to have dinner. The whole conversation transported me back to school days when we talked and complained and made references to HL’s funny remarks etc.. And this morning, I did the same on the phone with HL talking about CY.
I never did realize how much I miss my friends until now.. Life has a funny way of coming back in a circle (that’s right, older and wiser me talking now.. :P)
